Category Archives: Healing

Being vs. Having

Sometimes when I hear a phrase it strikes a chord inside my soul.  (Probably one reason why I love to read so much).  Who knows why we are attracted to certain words- whether it is because a certain saying applies to us or we wish to aspire to it or we simply love the way it sounds.

Here is one of mine tonight…

The most important things are not things at all.

To Have or To Be (1976) was Erich Fromm’s last major work. In it he says that two ways of existence were competing for ‘the spirit of mankind’ – Having and Being. Having is explained as longing for possessions to find meaning. Being meaning engaging in living “in the moment” and fining meaning in our relationships and what we share.

So are you having or being? Thinking back, it seems that a lot of people were their happiest when they didn’t have much.  A simpler life is something I am going to work towards.  A great example is kids loving the box the toy came in more than the toy. Remember those days???

What is a way you can practice being Happy?

Love, Laughter & Candlelight!


Gratitude is the heart’s memory.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
-Melody Beattie


Everynight as I fall asleep I always think of the things I am most grateful for.  Some of my friends keep a journal to list these things-I like to simply recall mine.

Here are 101 things that I am grateful for lately (in no particular order).

God
family
sound of kids laughing
books
bookstores
music
gardenias
freedom
full Moons
bonfires
gothic things
smell of rain
thunderstorms
fresh cut grass
tea
Fairies
beauty
sunsets
Moonrise
gardening
people speaking in accents
graphic design
sidewalk cafes
black eyeliner
Candles (of course!)
Vintage Victorian things
ghost stories
film noir
laughing till you cry
makeup
bare feet
new friends
old friends
hot coffee
dancing
pictures of faraway places
piano
jasmine
good red wine
vintage pin up art
tubing on the river
lavender plants
beer
holidays
parties
summer nights
barbeques
love
dry leaves crunching
hot coffee
unexpected kindness
dreams
forests full of green
vintage shops
big soft sweatshirts
pancakes with nuts
crisp fall nights
spaghetti
mom and dad
perfume
high heels
stars
swimming
palm trees
Pirates
sunshine on my back
warm sand
silly cats
dogs
cool crisp sheets
waves on the shore
tiny babies
smiles
sleeping in
staying up late
hot showers
fresh soap
new places
crackle of a warm fire
birds chirping
fountains splashing
butterflies
Santa Claus
movie nights
chocolate
lullabies
glitter
color
purple sweet tarts
mentors
haunting cello music
summer strawberries
poetry
sealing wax
boating
massages
aromatherapy
swimming
fireworks

What are YOU most thankful for?!

Love, Laughter & Candlelight,


Aromatherapy and Alzheimer’s Disease.

Aromatherapy and massage can be used to provide wonderful benefits for Dementia and Alzheimer’s patients.

Aromatherapy is herbal medicine that uses the medicinal properties of essential oils from plants and herbs.  French chemist Rene-Maurice Gattefosse coined the term aromatherapy in 1937, when he witnessed first-hand the healing power of lavender oil on healing skin burns.  (I keep a bottle of lavender essential oil in the kitchen near my spice for that very reason).

Essential oils can affect almost every system in the body. Each essential oil has a unique pharmacological effect, such as anti-bacterial, antiviral, diuretic, vasodilator, tranquilizing, and adrenal stimulating.

Combining a variety of essential oils and the act of touch can bring someone suffering from Alzheimer’s a sense of relaxation and well being. For patients in late stages of the disease process, essential oils are critical, instead of using a scented lotion. The oil is directly absorbed into the skin and blood stream with the ability to cross the blood brain barrier–lotions and moisturizers  are unable to achieve this effect. The essential oils continue to aid in relaxation when scent receptors are no longer working-such as those in the late stages of dementia or Alzheimer’s disease.

Here is a great video on how to do relaxing hand massage (this is what we do for Scott’s mom Emily Ruth-we just go a little more gently on hers.)

You can also spray citrus essential oils onto a handkerchief or tissue in the morning. Allow your friend or family member to hold and smell the tissue. Citrus (I use a blend Bergamot and Sweet Orange) has natural energizing and uplifting properties.  I used to place a few drops on a cotton ball and pin it to my Gran’s shirt so she could smell it-she called it a “flower”.   The aroma commonly stimulates appetite and energy.

Incorporating air diffusers that release essential oils such as lavender and vanilla can go a long way to creating a relaxing environment. The diffusers can be used in bathrooms to disperse lavender scents while showering, as well as sitting areas and bedrooms.

Our Lavender & Vanilla as well as our Sweet Orange and Bergamot Massage oil can be found on our website. (http://www.bluemooncandles.com )

Love, Laughter & Candlelight!


Sweet Dreams Essential Oil linen spray~

Many members of my family are sensitive to the fragrance in commercial laundry softeners and dryer sheets.  Here is a great alternative that I use.

This is a recipe I use for linen spray to add natural beneficial fragrance to our sheets and towels.  (I also have first hand knowledge that it makes a fantastic Monster Banishing Spray for little ones to spray under the bed before sleep).

  • 4 oz. clean spray bottle with a fine mist setting (do not use a bottle that previously contained cleaning products or hair products such as hair spray).
  • 30-40 drops of your favorite calming/relaxing or sensual essential oil or essential oil blend keeping the safety data of the chosen essential oil(s) in mind.
  • 1.5 ounces of distilled water and 1.5 ounces of high-proof alcohol (vodka is suitable, rubbing alcohol is not) or 3 ounces of distilled water.

This is my favorite blend:

  • 15 drops Sandalwood- relaxing, soothing, cooling, and sensual. It promotes restful sleep and helps to ease an anxious mind. It’s considered an aid in meditation and prayer- It is grounding in times of emotional distraction and aids with peace and acceptance in times of loss. In vapor therapy, Sandalwood Oil can be used to help clear bronchitis, coughs, chest infections, asthma, insomnia and irritability.
  • 15 drops Grapefruit or Bergamot-(I love the Bergamot)- used in the treatment of depression, stress, tension, fear, hysteria, infection (all types including skin), anorexia, psoriasis, eczema and general convalescence.
  • 2 drops Rose- an exotic aphrodisiac, an emollient in skin care products, and a balancer of the spirit.
  • 2 drops Jasmine- a sensual, soothing, calming oil that promotes love and peace.

Be sure and take heed in the safety data for the oil(s) you choose to use.

Directions: Fill the spray bottle with your choice of either 1.5 ounces of distilled water and 1.5 ounces of alcohol or 3 ounces of distilled water. (Even though a 4 oz. bottle is suggested, leave about 1 oz. unfilled so you can shake the bottle well between uses.)

Then, add 30-40 drops of essential oil. Essential oils can very in strength. You may want to try 20 drops at first especially if you or your partner are sensitive to strong aromas. Shake the bottle prior to each use, and let it sit for about a day before making a conclusion that the aroma is too weak; the aroma can change after the linen spray has had time to sit. Mist your sheets lightly. Be especially careful not to allow the mist to fall onto your skin, furniture or into open beverages. Be careful also to only use lightly colored essential oils otherwise your linen spray could stain your bed linens.

Sweet Dreams! <3

Love, Laughter & Candlelight!


Putting your problems into perspective… Wordless Wednesday


Thanks Giving…

Thanksgiving, after all, is a word of action.  ~W.J. Cameron


If you count all your assets, you always show a profit.  ~Robert Quillen

Grace isn’t a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal.  It’s a way to live.

Join us this season in lifting up our voices with Thanks!  There has never been a better time to cultivate a grateful spirit. My Gran used to have us go around the table before we shared a meal and tell her something that we were grateful for.  I would like to do that this year here, in her memory.

btw…Thanksgiving was never meant to be shut up in a single day, so feel free to go wild!

I will go first to start us off…

I am thankful for the help & encouragement I have received this year with my business from my family, friends & customers!  Thank you all So Very Much!  I am grateful!

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!

Love, Laughter & Candlelight!


Enter Sandman…..

Don’t underestimate the power of sleep.

Did you know not getting enough sleep can impair your immunity causing you to get sick more often, create constant low grade inflammation,  increase your risk of cancer, heart disease, diabetes and even make you fatter!

Most of us need between 7-9 hours of shut eye a night, with those getting 6 hours or less facing the increased risk of disease.

Here are some tips to hep you fall out faster!

  • Wake up and go to bed at the same time every day, even on weekends.
  • Limit your intake of alcohol, caffeine, and tobacco products during the day, especially in the hours before sleep.
  • Finish eating 2 to 3 hours before bedtime, avoiding big meals.
  • Exercise regularly. Finish your exercise a few hours before bedtime.
  • Eliminate napping or limit the duration to 20 to 30 minutes.

Create the Best Possible Sleep Environment

  • Remove electronics like computers and televisions from your room.
  • Keep the room cool, comfortable, quiet, and dark.
  • Use a comfortable mattress and pillows.
  • Use the bed only for sleep and intimacy.

Prepare for Sleep

  • Establish a relaxing bedtime routine: take a bath, read a book, bask in candlelight and stare peacefully into the flame, listen to relaxing music before bed.
  • Don’t watch the clock—it can cause anxiety about sleep.
  • Get out of bed if you can’t fall asleep within 15 to 20 minutes. Only spend time in bed when you are actually sleeping.
  • Write down concerns that keep you awake, creating a “to do” list for tomorrow. Also keep a sleep journal to help you see patterns in your sleep.

Let  aromatherapy relax you-we love our Lavanilla scented natural wax candles, but really you can use any fragrance you love.

lavander candle tin

Share your tips for a peace filled night, what helps you drift off to dreamland?


Make a Difference Monday!

I will start with a big giant Thank You to all our family & friends that have been such a great help lately!  It is never fun when life tosses you that little unexpected curve ball.  And it is also true that you never appreciate your good health enough!   I am happy to be feeling so much better and am very grateful for all the prayers, well wishes, understanding & help I received!

I noticed something when I was feeling so terrible-that nothing makes you feel better than helping someone else.  A burden shared is a lighter load right?

helping_hand

We here at BMC have decided to participate in Make a Difference Mondays!   It is a great idea really, and you can pick whatever works for you.  The idea is simple…do something for someone else, without expecting anything in return.

Ideas are as endless as your imagination…Carry in groceries for an elderly neighbor, pay for the order of the car behind you at Starbucks, help a frazzled neighborhood mom to an hour of peace by inviting her kids to play with yours for awhile, visit the local nursing home during your lunch hour-be that visitor someone there is desperate for.

kids_playing

Whatever idea you choose to use, you will spread unexpected encouragement in a regularly rough day, and you cannot help spilling some of that happiness on yourself!

Let me know what you think.  What ideas do you have?!


The Vivid world of Fragrance…

A Report from Howard Hughes Medical Institute.

 In The Remembrance of Things Past, French novelist Marcel Proust described what happened to him after drinking a spoonful of tea in which he had soaked a piece of madeleine, a type of cake: “No sooner had the warm liquid mixed with the crumbs touched my palate than a shudder ran through my whole body, and I stopped, intent upon the extraordinary thing that was happening to me,” he wrote. “An exquisite pleasure had invaded my senses…with no suggestion of its origin…

“Suddenly the memory revealed itself. The taste was of a little piece of madeleine which on Sunday mornings…my Aunt Leonie used to give me, dipping it first in her own cup of tea….Immediately the old gray house on the street, where her room was, rose up like a stage set…and the entire town, with its people and houses, gardens, church, and surroundings, taking shape and solidity, sprang into being from my cup of tea.”

Just seeing the madeleine had not brought back these memories, Proust noted. He needed to taste and smell it. “When nothing else subsists from the past,” he wrote, “after the people are dead, after the things are broken and scattered…the smell and taste of things remain poised a long time, like souls…bearing resiliently, on tiny and almost impalpable drops of their essence, the immense edifice of memory.”

Proust referred to both taste and smell—and rightly so, because most of the flavor of food comes from its aroma, which wafts up the nostrils to cells in the nose and also reaches these cells through a passageway in the back of the mouth.

 

Our taste buds provide only four distinct sensations: sweet, salty, sour, and bitter. Other flavors come from smell, and when the nose is blocked by a cold, most foods seem bland or tasteless.

Both smell and taste require us to incorporate—to breathe in or swallow—chemical substances that actually attach themselves to receptors on our sensory cells.

The average human being, it is said, can recognize up to 10,000 separate odors. We are surrounded by odorant molecules that emanate from trees, flowers, earth, animals, food, industrial activity, bacterial decomposition, other humans. Yet when we want to describe these myriad odors, we often resort to crude analogies: something smells like a rose, like sweat, or like ammonia.

Our culture places such low value on olfaction that we have never developed a proper vocabulary for it. In A Natural History of the Senses, poet Diane Ackerman notes that it is almost impossible to explain how something smells to someone who hasn’t smelled it. There are names for all the pastels in a hue, she writes—but none for the tones and tints of a smell.

Nor can odors be measured on the kind of linear scale that scientists use to measure the wavelength of light or the frequency of sounds.

Coming Soon- The Memory of Smells….


Spice for your Spirit…

Spice for your Spirit…

 

Houses of worship have used Frankincense for centuries for it’s heavenly aroma…it is not suprising to discover new research has proven the scent can indeed raise your spirits.  Scientists at John Hopkins University in Maryland and Hebrew University in Jerusalem found that incensole acetate, a compound found in frankincense resin, simulates production of a protien called TRPV3, which elevates your mood affecting areas of the brain that respond to anxiety and depression drugs.

“Burning the resin produces the strongest mood-elevating results, as the effects of inhaling the smoke are immediate,” says Ruth Knill, PhD, a licensed acupunturist.

If incense isn’t for you, light a frankinsence infused candle, add 10 drops of essential oil to a bath, or dab a few drops (diluted with a carrier oil-like sweet almond oil-onto your wrist.


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